Tempering, an Addendum

Tempering

While reviewing some older notes I’d written myself, I decided to revisit this one on tempering and add a few new thoughts. [original post]

My collective essence (mind, body, spirit) is never as clear, grounded, and focused as it is at dawn’s first breath. This is when the answers I seek come, while my mind is still not 100% alert to what’s going on in the world, before the distractions of life –and living– establish their pecking order on my day’s To Do list.

I’m seek God for clarity in dealing with all situations in my life: those that bring joy, those that being pain; those that I am aware of, those I’m not, and those to come. Clarity is a good thing, but it can with a bite. Clarity can be truly a painful thing.

 

Temper [temp-per] v.- to impart strength and toughness to by heating and cooling.
~Dictionary.com 

…Imparting strength through the heating and cooling, through the pain and the reprieve, through sun and the shade.  There is something to learn in all situations, good or bad, that will bring you closer to the person you are meant to be, to the blessings you are meant to have.

Through the heating and the cooling.

Not everything I want is what I need
Not everything I think I need is good for me,  now… or ever
Not every smile is an invitation, nor every rejection a curse.
Not everyone that flows into my life is meant to remain: just as they arrived in on the morning tide, so they shall leave on the evening’s.

Yes, I find most times clarity comes with a bite. I could ignore the sting and proceed headfirst down the path of my own creation…into whatever lies beyond. But this usually increases the chance of encountering chaos, increasing the likelihood for missteps, increasing the likelihood for real discomfort vs. God’s gentle reproach.

Or I could pause to clean the tear, where ever it falls in my spirit, emotion, or psyche, and deal with the pain or discomfort that comes with the cleanse. I’ve learned  sometimes the “situational temporary” is all I’ll get.   This lesson must be well learned so I recognize when the “situational permanent” arrives.

Is it always easy? No
Is it always fun? No

But it is always educational & fortifying.  It always tempers my mettle.  It teaches me to appreciate my worth.

Being content is not a crime, settling for it is.

Death is a necessity: Insecurities, unhealthy desires, & recklessness must be culled and applied as mulch.  Use them to fertilize the positive growth and the true direction of your life.

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Possibilities…Hope….Growth

sun rise

The best part of my mornings is leaving my house and getting my first glimpse of the sky.  Today it looks like there could be two suns rising.  And as dark as some of my more recent times have been, I could use the warmth of two rising suns in my life.  As I am a firm believer that God sometimes uses signs to communicate and mark journeys, I’m taking this to mean by days will be full of  hope, possibilities, opportunities, growth, and success.  All things that  flourish in the sun.

Life plugs along and waits for no man.  Either you let the darkness consume you, or  you dig in and work harder  so that when the rays return, your burdens are lighter and easier to handle now that you can better see the muck you’ve worked through and the path that lies ahead.  You don’t always need to see in full color HD high resolution the ditches and valleys through which you are traveling.  Sometimes, the darkness is a kindness.

While I’m here, a quick update on the writing side of things. I’ve finished my contracted short story and sent it in to the editor. (Can I get a Woot Woot?) Now, the real work begins! I’ve jumped back into my UF story I started last year. Unfortunately, I still couldn’t connect with it.  So instead of beating my head against a rock for another year on this idea, I completely disassembled it and started from scratch with a new story. Very daunting, but I am loving the new direction it’s heading and the energy I have for it.

Oh, and I’ve been asked to contribute to another short story collection! WOOOOT! No deats to share right now, but I just *may* have 2 short stories out this year. 😀

“No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are raise your sights and see possibilities–always see them, for they are always there.”

~Norman Vincent Peale

2013: The Plan

Sunrise CharlestonToday I am once again faced with the possibilities of a new year before me and the disappointments, lessons learned, and accomplishments of the year that just passed.

2012 was a bit of an unpredictable whirlwind for me.  A couple of major bumps cropped up in my personal life which took a lot of time, effort, and dedication to handle. That being said, I still pursued my writing and author goals… I just didn’t make the amount of progress I’d hoped for when the year started.  I did complete my tenure as President of my writing chapter, developed and conducted my first online workshop, and I did my first PR event as author.  I was also invited to contribute a short story to anthology which led to the successful completion of my first short story!

On the flip side, I did not make as much tangible process as I wanted on my UF series and didn’t get the chance to explore any other ideas.

In 2013, I will continue to pursue my writing goals.  My plans require focus & discipline and  include the completion of 3 full length manuscripts,  polishing at least one of these manuscripts, submitting my work to targeted publishers and agents, and the continual work on my building my author’s platform.

Here’s to a productive year and one certain thought:  2013 is the year for me to put in work and set myself up to be ready to take advantage of the opportunities heading my way.  This means I will have to learn to say “No”.  It’s nothing personal, but I can no longer afford to invest so much time and energy in others when I don’t get that same effort and support back.

Tempering

My collective essence (mind, body, and spirit) is never so clear, grounded, and focused as it is at dawn’s first breath. This is the time when the answers I seek come to me; while my mind is still not 100% alert to what’s going on in the world, before the distractions of life and living establish their pecking order on my day’s To Do list.

I constantly ask God for clarity in dealing with situations in my life—those that I am aware of, those I’m not, and those to come. For me, clarity always comes with a bite; it can be truly a painful thing.

Not everything I want is something I need
Not everything I think I need is good for me right now… or ever
Not everyone that flows into my life is meant to remain there

Yes, I find that most times clarity comes with a bite. I could ignore the sting, ignore the budding wound, and proceed headfirst down the path of my own creation…into whatever lies beyond. But this usually increases the chance of encountering chaos, increasing the likelihood for missteps.

Or I could pause to clean the tear, where ever it falls in my spirit, emotion, or psyche, and deal with the pain or discomfort that comes with the cleanse. I’ve learned that sometimes the “situational temporary” is all I’ll get. I just gotta learn the lesson at hand so I’m prepared for the day the “situational permanent” arrives.

Is it always easy? No
Is it always fun? No

But it is always educational & fortifying
It always tempers my mettle

Death is a necessity: fleshly desires, unhealthy wants, & recklessness must not only be eliminated, but applied as mulch to fertilize the growth, the positive, and the true direction of your life.

 

 

Image: La-Tessa Montgomery

Voyage

 

And I’m off to sail the wild, blue sea
To find what lies out there for me
In hopes there’s good things in store
For indigo isolation and vexation
I can take no more

There is no need to worry about me
I sail to discover just what I can be
I’ll never know my own true measure
Dealing with gray, ambiguity, and relay
If I can’t rely on me for my own life’s pleasure

 

Where ever I float, wander, or probe
Be you family, friend, lover, or foe
I’m there if needed, though my presence you won’t see
But not to deal with your bullshit
Nor summoned simply because you want something from me

So I’m off to sail the wild, blue sea
In hopes of something good out there for me
Praying for strength and patience as I walk through the door
There’s always risk when embarking on a new journey
But I will find what I’m searching for

Image: TraeMcNealy.com